By
Wyn Lydecker
One
of my favorite co-workers was fond of saying, “It’s not what happens to you
that matters. It’s how you respond.” Jim (not his real name) was a person who
had faced many high-stress events and bounced back. He had trained the Apollo I
astronauts how to use their onboard computer just before they were killed in
the tragic fire. He had been injured in a plane crash. And he had re-engineered
a division of a corporation in such a way that he designed himself out of a job.
Jim
and I were running a small business resource center at a small college together
when a regime change resulted in our resource center being shut down and our
positions eliminated. At the time I had no idea what I wanted to do next. But Jim
offered to take me through a process of redefining my personal and professional
goals. This was the same process we had used when we were counseling other
people in transition who were thinking of becoming entrepreneurs.
If
you are in transition and need a method to help you decide where you should
head next, work on answering this series of 10 questions that Jim and I used in
our counseling. You may be surprised with the results.
Weigh Your Trade-offs
Before
we launched into the questions, we gave a preamble:
We all
know that we are on Earth for an unpredictable amount of time. We also know
that time is a non-renewable asset. For those reasons, it’s good to make sure
that we are using our time in the way that is best for us. There is no one
right way for everyone. And what was right for someone at one point can change.
Your definition of success reflects your basic values. It also
provides the basis for determining your goals and the direction you will have
for your life. As you consider the different paths that might be open to you,
assess the probability of achieving success along each of those paths.
10 Questions to Ponder
1.
How do you define success?
2.
Consider five times you have felt that you were in
high-performance mode. What made you feel that way?
3.
What situations or actions led to the highest and
lowest points of your life?
4.
How do you set your short-term and long-term priorities?
5.
What process did you use to set your major life
goals?
6.
What were your core values at that time, and did you
base your choices on those values?
7.
Do you want to transfer those values to the next stage
of your life, and how can you do that?
8.
What are your goals now, and how do they differ or
align with the paths that are open to you?
9.
How can you use the resources (internal and external) that
are at your disposal to achieve your goals?
10. How
will your decisions affect you, your family, and other important people in your
life?
Be Open
I spent about two weeks
thinking about the questions, writing down answers and discussing them with Jim.
In the end, I felt amazingly renewed and very sure of how I wanted to use my
talents, education, experience and time. I became confident and open to new
opportunities.
Shortly after my last
meeting with Jim, a fellow Wharton alum called to see if I would like to write
business plans for startups. He was with a business plan writing company in New
York, and it was right at the height of the dot-com boom. We had met at one of
the events run by our small business resource center. Because of the assessment
process I had done with Jim, I knew this opportunity was exactly the sort of
work I wanted and grabbed it. The work was immediately rewarding and reinforced
my realization that I love writing and working with entrepreneurs.
Where are you in your
life? Are you at a point where an introspective process could help you look at
your situation from a new perspective? Try thinking through and answering these
10 questions to redefine your goals and open yourself to a new, more fruitful
and satisfying direction.
Originally published in the Wharton Magazine Blog under the title of
“Weighing Career Transition Tradeoffs.” Wyn Lydecker is the coauthor of The
Purpose Is Profit: The Truth about Starting and Building Your Own Business
(Greenleaf Book Group).
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